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Little May was sleeping peacefully in her adoptive mother’s arm waiting for the birth mother to come. The birth mother was late. The social worker had her gut feeling that the birth mother would not come to this meeting although she promised. The social worker recalled her first time meeting Little May’s birth mother who was sitting on the office couch and sobbing. “I did not do it on purpose. I just wanted to get some sleep. The baby would not stop crying. I did not know how to comfort her. I did not know she would sleep that long. I just gave her very small piece of sleeping pill” Little May’s birth mother said. “Can you please take Little May away from me? I am not a good mother. I can’t do it anymore.” The social worker managed to get more background story of Little May’ birth mother and realized that she came from a half-dysfunctional family. She tried to help her mother after graduating from junior high school as her father was not employed with some drinking as ...

「小詩，小詩，你還好嗎？」社工不停輕喚坐在沙發上的年輕媽媽 「他們說要幫忙我的！我只要負責賺錢就好了… . 」失魂落魄的小詩喃喃自語著 「我們可以體會你的辛苦，千萬不要再自責了！」社工輕拍小詩的肩 「每次下班回家，寶寶就哭不停，都沒辦法好好休息。醫生有開一些安眠藥給我。當時累癱了，好想好想睡覺，所以就餵了孩子半顆藥，不知道寶寶會昏睡那麼久，我真的不是故意的……」泣不成聲的小詩把頭埋進緊抱的雙腿間。   小詩剛上國中時，爸爸突然中年失業，媽媽一肩扛起家計，身兼三份工作維持開銷。小詩心疼媽媽辛苦萬分，於是下定決心不升學，想要工作賺錢分憂。沒有學經歷背景，更無一技之長加持，找工作期間到處碰壁。於是，在朋友的介紹下，到一家卡拉 OK 店當服務生。工作沒多久，在一次酒醉後，懵懵懂懂與客人發生關係，後來驚覺自己已經懷孕了。   幾個月後，小詩突然接到媽媽心臟衰竭病逝的噩耗。頓時，她的世界完全崩潰，沒有媽媽，也就沒有了努力的目標，將來該何去何從？小詩如置身汪海，腦筋一片空白。正想放棄自己的那一刻，肚子裡的小生命一腳踢醒小詩的理智… .. 「寶寶是無辜的，為了 Baby 我要堅強活下去 ! 」臉上掛著兩行淚痕的小詩，遠遠望著天空出神。   「小小」終於平安來到這個世界。年輕的小詩想獨力撫養孩子，這是多麼不容易的一件事。生育補助很快就捉襟見肘，小詩只好帶著「小小」回去找外公。 當初，信誓旦旦說要幫忙的外公，開始變相的要褓母費及奶粉錢。下班之後，就把「小小」塞給疲憊不堪的小詩，然後拿著辛苦掙回的鐘點費出去「漂丿」。 年輕媽媽終於在體力不支的情況下，餵食孩子吃安眠藥，社會局才會介入，輾轉來到機構。 「我已經無力獨自撫養小小，你們行行好，幫孩子找個好人家。對不起，我不是故意的，不知道事情會變得那麼嚴重！」小詩一直哽噎的表達愧疚。 「放心吧！醫生說小小的狀況不嚴重，幸好吃的劑量不多，現在只需要好好的觀察。明天小小出院後，我們會幫她找個安置機構，然後依照規定辦理出養程序，你千萬不要想太多，先好好的在家裡休息。」社工握著小詩的雙手，蹲在面前說。   幾個月後，小小除了身形很清瘦之外，健康狀況還算穩定，也媒合到不錯的收養家庭。小詩則入住社工安排的小套房，並到職訓局介紹的地方工作...

忙過昏天暗地的一週，終於來到周末假期的倒數時分。心中一直暗自默禱，不要再有「緊急電話」進來攪亂暫時喘息的片刻。不料，思緒才過，電話鈴聲就響了，話筒那頭傳來寄養媽氣急敗壞的抱怨，瞬間直覺大事不妙了。 「喂～喂～喂～社工，你們快來把小楷帶走吧！我真的沒有辦法再照顧他了。剛剛，這個孩子竟然想把貓放進微波爐裡，還好我發現得早，要不然我的貓一定小命不保了。我問他怎麼可以這樣做，小楷竟然硬把微波爐直接砸過來。我…我…年紀一大把了，真的沒辦法照顧這種撒潑的小孩。」寄養媽一邊大聲喘氣，一邊氣沖沖的說，後來卻是透露著恐懼的情緒。   在安撫寄養媽的心情的同時，同步思索著下一步該做的聯繫與安排。小楷這次真的把事情鬧太僵，社工還在傷腦筋，不知如何善後。快速抵達現場後，卻被眼前這一幕嚇著，年僅七歲的幼童，竟能抱起沉重的微波爐，砸向寄養媽，這孩子心中到底在想什麼？ 「你可以跟阿姨說，發生了什麼事嗎？」社工蹲下來，手輕觸小凱的肩膀 「我丟東西，阿嬤（寄養媽）不開心！」小楷頭低低的說 「是什麼事讓你這麼生氣，要丟東西呢？」社工接著耐心問 「如果阿嬤不要我，是不是可以回家找媽媽？」小楷終於把頭抬起來 「小楷想媽媽，是不是想跟媽媽在一起？」社工摸摸小凱的頭 「嗯！我很擔心媽媽。」   此時內心的震驚無法形容，小楷自出生後就離開親生母親的身邊，政府社工將小楷安置在寄養家庭，到現在已經長達七年。這段期間，因為生母的狀況不是很穩定，小楷和母親的會面也是斷斷續續，沒想到這孩子對母親的依戀竟是如此的深，這到底是「為什麼」呢？   經過一連串的研究和蒐集資料，社工發現原來中國人常說「母子連心」是其來有自的，母子間的生理和心理的連結，英文稱之為 bonding ，自受孕的那一刻起，會在懷孕期間增長，並在出生時深化，然後永遠存在。換句換說，不管出生後發生什麼事，所有孩子和他們親生母親有不可斷的連結。所幸情感上的連結 ( 依附關係 ) ，是可以透過後天慢慢培養的。

Finally it was Friday afternoon after a super busy week. I was praying for no more urgent phone calls for next two hours. So I could start to relax and enjoy my weekend. Unfortunately, a moment right after this thought, a phone call came through. It was Jack’s foster mother. “YOU come to pick Jack up. I cannot care for him anymore. You cannot believe what he just did. He put my cat in the microwave. I saw it and stopped him in time. Then he picked up microwave and threw it at me. I… I… I am old. I can’t”. As the foster mother told me what happened, I could tell from her voice that her feelings became to fear from anger. I cannot believe what I heard. Jack, a tiny 7-year-old boy, could pick up a “microwave”! Was he secretly trained to throw shot? Or did he have a magic to become the Hulk? I rushed to the house and had a few talks with Jack. Jack felt sorry for what happened and apologized. Then suddenly he asked me: “If Tracy wants me to go, can I go home to my mom? I worr...

This film was made through 4 foreigners and brought back so many precious childhood memories.It reminds me that Taiwan is a beautiful country with lots of people with warm heart. Enjoy it! 透過四個外國人認識臺灣的連結，裡面有許許多多令人感動的回憶。臺灣還是充滿人情味，是個很美的地方。繼續努力，使這塊土地更美好。 https://www.youtube.com/embed/1U8fQBIITf

One day, when I sat on my husband's motorcycle on the way to his work place, suddenly this idea came to my mind -- I should create a platform to provide support services to all the people involving with adoption in Taiwan, including the adopted parents or adoptive parents to be, the adopted children and the birth families who placed children for adoption. The other main goal is to share some ideas for adoption professionals. I will share information on various topics related to adoption, including culture, adoption process, adoption parenting, roots search, reunion,family assessment and so on. So my goal to support can be reached. 一天，我坐在先生的摩托車上去他工作的地方，突然間，靈光乍現，我的一個生命使命是建立一個支持平台，提供相關收出養的人支持服務，包括收出養人、被收養人及專業工作者。我將會談論透過不同的層面，談論關於收出養，包括收出養流程、文化、尋根、重聚、家庭評估等等，以達支持的目的。