【Relinquish for Love 為愛出養】I am not just a birth mother 親親媽咪

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This video clearly describes how a birth mother feels after making decision placing her child for adoption for love.
為愛出養的母親，做完決定後，失落哀傷才開始，療癒需要被了解。

I am not just a birth mother 親親媽咪

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【社會焦點】臺灣收出養制度及沿革

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最近筆者有機會接出觸到幾位被收養人，他們分別是在民國 1975 到 1984 年間送給外國人養的，而聽到他們的生命故事後，想起這四十年間臺灣收出養制度及沿革。 臺灣的收出養制度經歷幾個重大的變革，而有了今天的專業面貌。我國收出養在 1985 年前，是採取契約制，也就是說收養人與出養人簽屬雙方共擬的書面契約，然後向戶政機關登記，這樣的收出養即可成立。 1985 年後，收養制度修法改為認可制，收養人與出養人簽屬書面收出養合約書後，尚需向法院聲請認可，法院認可後，始能向戶政機關登記。 為了更保障兒童及少年的權益， 1993 年兒童福利法更進一步明文規定，法院在認可收養案件聲請前，「應」命主管機關或兒童及少年福利機構進行訪視，提出調查報告及建議，這使得法院在審理收出養案件時，更謹慎周延，避免兒童買賣的情事發生。 2003 年兒童及少年福利法在收養修法之重點，除強調必須尊重兒童少年之出養意願外，也增加對「出養必要性」的嚴格審查機制，也就是只要出養家庭有照顧孩子的意願，且經社工員的訪視調查，若出養家庭所提出的困難及出養的因素可以經由協助而不付存在，並能夠提升照顧的功能，法院則可以不予以認可。 2011 年 11 月 30 日，「兒童及少年福利法」更修正為「兒童及少年福利與權益保障法」，以顯示對兒童及少年權益的重視，其中影響收出養最甚的是第 16 條，即臺灣除了親屬間和繼親間的收出養外，所有的收出養都必須經過機構辨理，收出養不再有私下協議的狀況發生。 雖然臺灣的收出養制度離許多新進國家和海牙公約的規定尚有努力的空間，但其轉化國人「將孩子視為獨立個體，不是所擁有之『財產』」觀點的努力，必須給予肯定。當然，除了更努力推廣正確的觀念外，也希望有朝一日，廢止終止收養的法條，讓劉墉養母所展現之愛的精神及承諾，在現實生活中屢屢可見。 參考文獻： 1.    100年12月內政部兒童局委託研究報告：兒童及少年被終止收養及試養失敗之原因及因應策略探討     2.  兒童及少年福利與權益保障法
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【Get to know Taiwan】Father’s Day

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【Adoptee’s Journey】Living Life With Questions About Adoption

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